Some people are great at risk-taking. They thrive on pursuing what they want, despite big challenges or even danger.
Trying new things seems to come more easily to them. They appear to be fearless. Uber confident. Or completely insane.
They seem care-free and unburdened. Always up for an adventure. Completely willing to try new things.
And always answering, “YES!!!! Let’s do this!”
I used to admire and simultaneously fear risk-takers.
Who are these people? I wondered.
What did they I have that I didn’t have?
Was it a special gene that I just wasn’t born with?
Where does that all that fearlessness come from?
I always knew that had a tiny risk-taker inside of me.
But I also learned how to silence her.
She was inconvenient. Restless and unpredictable. She wanted to mess with my perfectly thoughtful and careful planning.
How dare her?
I wanted to be in control.
And to stay safe.
Numb the fear.
Danger was to be avoided at all costs, no matter what.
But, here’s what I have learned about safety and fear and danger.
Safety is easy. Fear is necessary. And danger is a myth.
The truth is that there’s very little in our everyday lives, that is actually dangerous.
We have homes. And clothes to keep us warm. There is more than enough food to eat. There is clean water. We have heat, drug stores, phones, and jobs. We have education, pets to love, medicine and bank accounts.
We are safer than we think.
Now that’s not to say that a lot of things feel huge and scary and totally impossible, but this is different than dangerous.
Fear trips us up all the time. Our brains get super confused by fear.
Our ‘fight or flight brains’ try to tell us that everything is DANGEROUS and that we must avoid, stay away and protect against danger and the possibility of suffering harm or injury.
Fear is necessary. For growth and change and evolution.
And fear does mean the same thing as danger.
Fear is an emotion. Plain and simple. Fear is a vibration that passes through our bodies that usually feels uncomfortable. Despite what we believe, there is no physical harm with feeling the emotion of fear.
And yet, fear is the biggest excuse we use to not take risks, make a change, pursue a dream, to fall in love, to make more money, to follow our passion.
We also use the excuse of fear justify procrastination, over-eating, avoiding, complaining, gossiping, self-doubt and indecision.
Stay comfortable. Stay familiar. Stay predictable.
Everything that we really want is just on the other side of fear.
The best way I know to work with fear in pursuit of growth and change is to acknowledge that fear is necessary and danger is a myth.
Fearlessness takes practice.
The best way to practice is to challenge yourself to do something uncomfortable.
Dare yourself. Unleash your inner risk-taker.
It bolsters self-confidence and courage, which builds the muscle of working with fear in your future.
Everything that you really want is on the other side of fear and fear is just an emotion. Feeling the emotion of fear is not dangerous.
Make a sales call.
Ask for raise.
Schedule some time for yourself.
Go to an event, alone.
Sign up for a class.
Start the first chapter of your book.
Say, I love you, first.
Volunteer to speak in public.
End a toxic relationship.
Notice how these things are not dangerous. They are just tasks that seem hard because of an uncomfortable feeling. Don’t let your brain fool you. It wants to protect you from danger.
I want you to have what you want and not to let a little fear get in your way of having it.
I want you to say “YES! Let’s do this!”
Set your inner risk-taker free. I dare you!
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