Do you want your future or your past?
It’s an interesting question to consider. And here’s why.
One of the main causes of current problems in our lives is our programming from our past. Our past is where all of our current thinking was learned.
From the time you were young all the way until now, you have adopted beliefs and thought patterns mostly unconsciously. Now as an adult, you may be very skilled at thinking those thoughts without even realizing how they are affecting you.
In fact, some of your past programming is not only creating your current thinking, feeling and action patterns, but it is also controlling your focus.
Often, I will have clients who spend most of their sessions with me talking about their past. They will recall stories from their childhood, things they experienced as young adults, and in previous relationships, etc.
Their past-focused approach prevents them from moving forward. It perpetuates evidence for unconscious programming and doesn’t allow for deeper awareness or more deliberate present thinking.
These clients typically have a hard time dreaming and thinking about the future. Their past programming dominates and distracts any opportunity for exciting change and growth.
Here are some past-focused beliefs that my clients have shared with me:
I am just this kind of person
I’ve never been able to do that
This always happens to me
This is just the way life is
It’s what I’ve always known
It’s never going to change
Most of the time, my clients have no idea that they are so focused on the past.
The tricky part about being past-focused is that they are really good at it because they have been practicing it for many years. It’s such an ingrained way of thinking and they do not even realize that you are doing it.
Besides inhibiting growth, change and even dreaming – past-focused thinking prevents us from trying new things.
When we look to our past for confidence and for evidence we can succeed at something new, we will not be able to find it. We can only find confidence and evidence for the things we are already good at doing.
Confidence can come from new beliefs in new things, not from our past.
We need to tap into the energy of our present and our future in order to create momentum. We dream of something we want by imagining something in our future. Even if we want to recreate something we’ve had in our past, we need to remember it’s a new creation and not a repetition.
If we only look for evidence in the past for our confidence we need to move forward, we may not be able to see the potential for change. When we are in our past-focused loop, we can’t find the solutions.
The solutions are always found in the present by changing our minds about what is possible and what can be different.
When we are past-focused we are stuck in patterns that don’t serve our growth. When we are present and future-focused, we are taking control of our thinking and deciding how to think deliberately moving forward.
One of the best ways to focus your mind on the future is by setting goals and dreaming about you want in the future.
If you are ready to start choosing your future over your past, book a complimentary Breakthrough Session and I will show you how. Let’s talk about the past programming that you are ready to let go in pursuit of a future that you are really excited about.