The Downside of Indecision.

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I can absolutely relate when someone says to me, “I have a decision to make but I’m just not making it and it’s driving me crazy!”

I know this so well because when I avoid making a decision or taking action – it constantly weighs on my thoughts, disrupts my sleep, depletes my energy and disconnects me from my personal power. I feel distracted and overwhelmed by the fact that I have a decision to make or action to take. I feel detached from the present moment, like I am just going through the motions and everything feels a little unsettled. The state of indecision or inaction does begin to drive me crazy.
A client of mine recently put off a decision about creating her dream career because she was afraid to make the wrong decision. This kept her blocked from doing what she really wanted and prevented her from spending time doing what she loves to do, all because she was afraid of making the wrong decision. Another client stayed in a relationship with someone she knew she was not right for her. She was focused on thoughts of, “I need to tell him” and then constantly worried about how and when to do it – all of which blocked her from pursuing other aspects of her life that she was really passionate about. Both of these clients referred to “driving themselves crazy” with the constant distraction of indecision and inaction.
In both of these cases, my clients allowed fear to create indecisiveness and it kept them from taking positive steps toward their goals. They both knew with 100% certainty that simply making their decision would make them feel better, but they didn’t trust that the correct answers were within them. If they had fully decided and responded, they would have been less stressed; less distracted and felt a whole lot better. A decision, followed by action would have allowed both of these women to spend more time doing what they love and less time worrying.
Being indecisive leads to procrastination, self-doubt and distraction.
The constant thinking about making a decision, drains and depletes your energy and only drives you further away from the success you want. Decision-making always feels better, creates empowerment, clears the way for new opportunities, and propels you towards everything that you want in your life.
Being an empowered woman means being the leader in your life. One of the most empowering skills a leader has is the ability to make a good decision.

So how do you move away from the fear of making the wrong decision?

Know that it is absolutely impossible to make a wrong decision. Ever. For every decision you make, you gain experience and knowledge for the future and you open up new opportunities. There is always something positive to be gained from the result of a decision, even it is not what you hoped for.
Step into your BEST SELF. When you are in a feel-good place, you will be more decisive and make quicker decisions. Connect to your best self through meditating, journaling, exercise, etc. Visualize your best self-making decisions that need to be made. Imagine exactly how your best self feels and what she thinks. Then, when it’s time to make decisions in life, ask how your best self would handle the situation. Would she procrastinate or take action?
Trust your intuition. Go with it, without question, otherwise things get confusing and unnecessarily complicated. Your answer on what to do, is already within you, it’s just a matter of connecting to what is true. Believe that your first choice is always the best. If you feel a little unsure about a specific decision, put a time frame on it. Tell yourself that within 24 hours you will make a decision and then do it.
One thing I know for sure is that avoiding decisions only brings you more of what you don’t want. Making choices can become easy and lead to more freedom when you do it from a place of calm and connection. You will experience some degree of fear in the process of making a decision or taking action – that is to be expected. Fear is just an uncomfortable emotion, not proof that things won’t work out.
As you look at your life this week, think about where you are stuck in indecision or inaction. What can you do today, to make a shift? Commit to making a decision or taking action within the next 24 hours and see how good you feel when you honor that commitment. Feel free to email me, if you want support in this process. I would love to help you stay committed and accountable during this process.

Make Change For The Better.

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To better your life, there must be a willingness and openness to change. The best news is that change comes from within. We are in control of how, when and if we decide to change in order to improve our lives. We do not have to wait for circumstances or other people to make it happen. We have the privilege of being able to do it ourselves, anytime we want. All we have to do is start.

Here are 5 of my favorite ways to start making change for the better!

1. Trust Your Intuition:
Imagine your life if you fully tapped into your intuition. Our intuition is one of most powerful resources we own. Listening to our intuition is the essence of creativity, the foundation for intentional living, and the source of all our best answers and decisions. Intuition is that hunch you have, your gut feeling our “knowing”. Connecting and listening to your intuition is a skill to master and it takes practice. Allowing yourself the experience of listening to your intuition, even if you’re unsure will begin to build your trust. Listening to your intuition is key to making decisions because you already have the best answer inside you.

2. Show Up in Your Life:
Do you expend more energy avoiding your life rather than showing up in it? Is more time spent telling yourself you will do it tomorrow, wasting hours in procrastination and avoidance? It’s time for that to change. Begin showing up in your life, in small or big ways, it doesn’t matter, the point is to show up. Show up imperfectly – be exactly who you are right now. Agree to stop tricking yourself into thinking you will show up later once you’ve come up with the perfect way to do it, with the best idea or the ideal opportunity. The best of everything comes after you decide to show up. When you show up in your life, you build a deep sense of self-confidence and which allows you to play a bigger role in your life.

3. Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable:
Stepping out of your comfort zone can be unpleasant or scary, but staying in a place where we feel at ease doesn’t help us make the changes we desire or take our lives to the next level. Make an agreement with yourself to find a way to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Today, do one thing you’ve wanted to do but haven’t yet because you feel uncomfortable doing so. Through the process of doing this you will find out you have much more to offer yourself and the world.

4. Take More Action:
Inaction does not result in fulfillment. Get out of your head and into your life by taking action. Instead of waiting for some big push or inspiration to hit, decide to take action right now. If you have a sense your life would benefit from taking a class, or working with a coach, then sign up. If you have been thinking about writing that book, starting drawing or getting back to an exercise regimen, stop thinking and take action. Write your outline, enroll in that class, get your art supplies, put your sneakers on and take that walk. Take action.

5. Embrace Life’s Lessons:
Don’t worry about making mistakes. When you concern yourself with thoughts of failure, you hinder yourself from making any progress. Focusing on how you might not succeed keeps you from taking action to move forward. The more you worry about making mistakes, the more stagnant you become. Begin to trust that every mistake you make is the perfect opportunity to learn and grow. Embrace the lessons you’ll learn from the blunders and errors you might make rather than allowing these fears to hold you back. Don’t beat yourself up about how you might not be perfect; celebrate the fact that you are taking charge of your life and taking action toward your goals.

The best thing about your life is you get to decide, how and when you want to change it. Putting one or all of these tips into practice will getting you moving and I guarantee you’ll find that you are more confident than you think you are and you will feel more in control of your life and your destiny.

Intuition

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Intuition is an incredible tool because it provides us with quick insight. It allows us to understand something almost immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. And yet, most of us ignore our intuition. We can’t access it because we are unaware of what it feels like in our bodies. Or we don’t trust it. Or it is inconvenient and means that we might need to change our minds, change direction or impact someone else.

Intuition can be very powerful when we tap into it. It requires a willingness to access our inner knowing – one that may not feel immediately logical or make sense in the moment. It means being vulnerable. It means accepting that we already know what is best for us. It means giving ourselves permission to experience something intended for our benefit.

To access our intuition, we must silence the inner negative chatter that we inevitably experience. We have to shut down the ‘what will they think’ thoughts, the ‘it will be too hard’ thoughts and the ‘it doesn’t make any sense’ thoughts.

How could you change the course of your life in big or small ways by accessing your intuition this week – trusting that you know exactly what is best for you even when it may not make sense to everyone else?

Try going inward. Connect to your intuition when you have to solve a problem or make a decision. Trust that the answers are already within you and that following your intuition is the very best way to access your truth about what you really want.

Loving myself enough

Loving myself enough to speak my truth 100% of the time.

 

Loving myself enough to listen patiently and intently while others find their voice.

 

Loving myself enough to hold space for those that need to fill it.

 

Loving myself enough to risk being raw and exposed.

 

Loving myself enough to ask hard questions.

 

Loving myself enough to trip and fall flat on my face.

 

Loving myself enough to extend the hand that pulls me back up.

 

Loving myself enough to go all in when my intuition is activated.

 

Loving myself enough to invite those I love to come with me.

 

Loving myself enough to have my own back.

 

Loving myself enough for the sheer joy of it.