The Coaching Habits That Are Slowing Your Clients Down
Back then, I felt responsible for the success of every session. If my client wasn’t having big insights, I worried I was doing something wrong. If they were quiet, I rushed in with a new question. If they seemed stuck, I felt like it was on me to guide them out of it.
These 3 Coaching Mistakes Will Drain Your Energy—Are You Making Them?
It took time (and a lot of practice) to realize that coaching isn’t about doing (sometimes forcing) more—it’s actually about doing less.
I’m sharing three early coaching mistakes that drain your energy—so you can move through them quickly or hopefully skip them altogether.
What Happens When You Bet on You?
Most people don’t hold themselves back because they lack ability. They hold themselves back because they focus more on what could go wrong than on what’s possible.
The Relief You’re Feeling—Is It the Right Kind?
Relief is a beautiful thing when it comes at the right time, in the right way. It can signal that you’ve honored your capacity, completed something important, or given yourself permission to move toward something you truly want (even when it feels very hard.)
But if your relief is coming from stepping back too soon, it might be worth staying with the discomfort just a little longer—because your success/dream/breakthrough/certainty may be right on the other side.
Are You Overworking in Your Coaching Sessions?
Overworking in coaching usually comes from a place of respect and care for our clients, but underneath, there’s often something deeper.
Taking Care of You After a Coaching Session
If you want to create a sustainable, fulfilling coaching practice, you need space to process, reset, and reflect after your sessions. Otherwise, you might find yourself carrying unprocessed emotions, second-guessing your work, or feeling drained before your next session even begins.
Still Stuck? Here’s How to Finally Decide & Move Forward
Decisions don’t have to be perfect to be powerful. The real power comes from commitment—trusting yourself enough to follow through without constantly looking back.
The Decision You Think You Made (But Haven’t Really)
This pattern—flip-flopping, second-guessing, and revisiting decisions—has a cost. It drains time, energy, and confidence. And often, the biggest thing holding us back isn’t the decision itself—it’s our fear of commitment.
Are You Overcoaching? These 5 Signs Might Surprise You
It’s easy to think that offering more insights, asking more questions, or guiding clients more rigidly will help them get better results. But sometimes, doing too much actually slows them down.
Compassion in Uncertain Times.
Compassion isn’t about minimizing pain, having all the answers, or figuring everything out right away—it’s about creating space for tenderness, listening, and kindness, even when things feel upside down.
Building Community: Coaching to Connect
The truth is that we can’t avoid differences—in our partnerships, friendships, or collaborations. But coaching teaches us how to approach differences with empathy and intention.
It’s not about “fixing” relationships or making everyone agree—it’s about fostering trust, mutual respect, and the ability to hold space for multiple truths.
Empathy: The Bridge to Understanding
Empathy has a way of softening the hardest edges.
When we feel truly understood, we become more open—to others, to new ideas, and even to ourselves.
The Art of Truly Seeing and Hearing
David Brooks writes, “Seeing another person deeply is not just an act of perception but an act of creation.” When we listen with intention and reflect with empathy, we help the other person articulate who they are, perhaps in a way they’ve never done before.
This is especially true in coaching. When a client sits across from us, they are often confronted with questions, doubts, or dreams they haven’t yet voiced. Our role is to create a space where they feel safe enough to explore.
The Magic of Open-Ended Questions
Open-ended questions don't just solicit an answer—they invite more introspection.
They allow you (or your client) to explore what you or they think, feel, or want with fewer limitations of a yes or no.
They create more understanding and broaden perspectives.
Unveiling The Transformative Power Of Awareness
Awareness helps you make meaning between what you feel, how you interpret information, and what you do.
This connection is crucial because it shapes how you show up in the world, relate to others, and care for yourself.
Lights, Camera, Self-Doubt Drama
I’ve decided to commit to taking small daily actions that help me be present with my self-doubt instead of using it as a permission slip to stay paralyzed in fear of what could go wrong.
The Self-Protection Solution
The first step is just to be aware as we stare at ourselves in the mirror or sit down at our computers to write and post, to notice that our brain is making meaning of what it is experiencing.
Our brains write a story that is separate from who we are.
And precisely because of this separateness, we can see and opt out of negative thinking.
When My Confidence Hit Rock Bottom
It motivates me to help as many coaches as I can believe deeply in themselves, trust their wisdom and instincts, and treat themselves impeccably.
For the past 5 years (and counting), I've guided coaches in breaking negative self-doubt patterns and stepping unapologetically into sustaining confidence.
Because I’ve been there and seen what self-doubt and shame cost us
Just Because
The simple answer is that our intuition, heart, energy, or gut always knows, and we can choose to listen.
A more complex (and honest) answer is that we also seek external approval, which means that no one’s feelings are hurt, and we aren’t judged. This makes listening to and honoring our wants very challenging.
Understanding this, here’s an approach you can take this week to incorporate more of doing what you want.
Redefining People Pleasing
People pleasing may involve subtly trying to control someone else’s emotions—hoping to make them feel happier, more appreciative, or more respectful.
But often, the reason we go to these lengths to please others is because of the sense of peace, security, or validation we hope to feel in return.
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